When I was in my 20s, my then-partner told me that he didn’t think I knew how to be happy. I remember sitting there in shock, wondering where in Taylor Swift’s multiverse he had found the audacity. I could absolutely be happy! It felt like he was weaponizing the fact that I have emotions in…
Depending on who you ask, I may sound like a huge success or a massive failure. Some people think that my serial pursuit of new achievements makes me a superstar, someone who is constantly growing and learning new things. Others see my collection of achieved and forgotten accomplishments as a lack of discipline or commitment….
Have you ever been so broken by something that no matter what, you could never recover? That the hurt of that experience was deeply rooted in your bones and a part of who you are now? It can feel suffocating as if there is no way out—as if this pain will define your life forever….
Let me start by saying that this is not a hit piece. I’d also like to give a considerable content warning; this post is going to discuss body image and disordered eating/exercising. The body positivity movement is a beautiful and necessary thing. It exists to push back against the impossible beauty standards of our society,…
This is a story about anxiety. Today, I had to go to the DMV to get my license renewed. I also had to change my address. Typical, human thing, right? Not something to get too worked up about, right? No, not to me. My anxiety takes normal, everyday human activities and makes them an absolute…
The bizarre thing about going to therapy is that you become quite aware of what’s going on with your mental health. Before therapy, I could sink into a depressive state, blissfully unaware of what was happening to my mind and emotions. Now, I can see it happening. I’ve watched myself slowly disappear over the last…
I struggle with a lot of self-doubt around whether I do enough. One area of my life where this trait comes out the loudest is at my kids’ school. As a working mom who is self-employed, I have a lot more flexibility than moms who have traditional jobs. I still have goals and deadlines, but…
We all want closure, especially when our relationships turn sour. But as much as we wish for it, closure isn’t always an option – and many times it may not even be the best option. So how do we navigate these rough waters without the help of definitive closure? It comes with understanding healing on…
I spend a lot of time asking myself if I made a mistake. Was that the best choice for me or my family? Should I have spent money on that? Could I have made a better choice? We fear mistakes. It’s natural to want to make the right choices. Nobody makes decisions hoping they’re the…
I want you to get used to saying, “I do not accept your apology.” Why? Because most apologies aren’t real apologies. Let me explain. There are several things that a real apology should be. It should be sincere. It should be specific about the harms that were done. A real apology should give you the…
