In online spaces, I see a lot of conflict happening between men and women when it comes to household labor in heterosexual relationships. And, to be honest, I think a lot of these difficult conversations would be made easier if we would define and clarify the terms we’re using. Today, I want to discuss the…
Part of my three-year healing journey has focused on learning how to avoid going into freeze, fight, or flight response every time I find myself in conflict with my spouse. I love him tremendously. Having already navigated a separation, and very nearly a divorce, I naturally fear anything that threatens the peace and happiness we…
The concept of dating your spouse is beautiful, in theory. Of course, most of us would happily continue the excitement and romance that characterized the beginning of our marriages if we had our way. But, as most of us have learned, life, parenthood, and its many demands swiftly get in the way. Parenting is a…
Content Warning: This article discusses cultivating a healthy sex life. Part of that discussion involves talking about what is not healthy. It will briefly discuss sexual coercion and how we overcame it. My husband and I have been to a lot of therapy, which has allowed us to navigate these difficult conversations with trust and…
It’s always been interesting to me that many couples choose to go to couples therapy when their relationship is in trouble. It’s not that I have anything against couples therapy. I just happen to think that, if a relationship has broken down to the point where a third party is needed to help them navigate…
In the years since my separation and reconciliation with my husband, I’ve been pretty vocal about the issues we had in our marriage. In fact, I have a book coming out in the Fall of 2024 that discusses that journey and how we overcame it. There were many, many things that contributed to our problems….
When I tell people that my husband and I separated for six months and then reconciled our marriage, they often have a lot of questions for me. How did you do it? What was the trick? Did you go to couples therapy? And, of course, my favorite: Did having more sex help? The internet is…
One of the hardest parts of reconciling a marriage is remembering that you’ve reconciled the marriage. Allow me to explain. Two years ago, my husband and I separated. Our marriage was at rock bottom, and we needed time and space to heal, to get some therapy, and to figure out what we wanted. During that…
Wait, don’t scroll away yet! I promise this isn’t about to be one of those patronizing articles about how you should be prioritizing date nights in your marriage. We all get it by now. Yes, we should be going on dates. But let’s be honest: for some of us, especially those of us with kids…
Sex is an uncomfortable topic for many couples. Not only were many of us indoctrinated into religious beliefs that brought shame around the concept of sex, but most of us have also endured relationships that ruined what was otherwise a healthy attitude toward sex. My marriage was no different. In fact, our issues around sex…
