An inconvenient truth about marriage is that our past troubles move with us into the present —even when you have moved on and forgiven each other. Forgiveness heals, but it doesn’t erase. And many of us find ourselves tethered to deep emotions from the past. The key to a healthy path forward may be to…
At the end of 2021, my husband and I separated. We lived separately for six months, and in the middle of 2022, we reconciled our marriage. People often ask us if we knew, when we separated, whether we would end up divorcing or getting back together. The short answer is, of course, no. We had…
My husband and I are presently working through a few parenting obstacles. We have different opinions on how discipline and consequences should be handled, those clashing opinions are becoming hard to work around. Especially now that the kids are a bit older (they are 5 and 7). What do you do when you and your…
My husband and I just had an argument. Like, literally 2 minutes ago. This argument was absolutely not necessary. It didn’t serve any purpose, didn’t really lead us anywhere. It was a fight for a fight’s sake purely because we both had a shitty day and thought it would feel good to make someone else…
A year ago, my husband and I separated. We spent six months apart and eventually reconciled, and we are happier than ever. But happy doesn’t mean easy, and we have certainly had our share of work to do. For us, 99% of our problems are fixed with good communication. One of the first things we…
My husband and I spent the first several years of our marriage thinking we were communicating well, when in reality, our communication was completely dysfunctional. Once, over dinner with my parents, my dad asked me, “Amber, do you and Charlie even speak to each other?” I was taken aback, because it felt like we talked…
My marriage separation was a bewildering time for me and for my husband. We didn’t know what we wanted out of the separation; we just knew that we needed to time to heal, and we needed to be apart to do that. Like my therapist said at the time, a wound can’t scab over if…
Couples who split up the chores equally tend to be happier and to have higher levels of satisfaction and intimacy in the relationship. Unfortunately, a lot of us still cling to old fashioned ideas about how domestic tasks should be divided, with the majority of the labor falling on the shoulders of the woman. Even…
Every marriage has conflict. It’s an unavoidable part of married life. Unfortunately, many couples approach conflict as a situation where one person is pitted against the other. This type of mentality can quickly turn a disagreement into a full-fledged argument that can leave both parties feeling hurt and unheard. The truth is, when it comes…
Housework can be a major source of stress for married and cohabitating couples. It’s not uncommon for one partner to feel like they are carrying the majority of the load while the other partner does little or nothing. This can lead to resentment and tension in the relationship. It is important that both partners equally…
