In online spaces, I see a lot of conflict happening between men and women when it comes to household labor in heterosexual relationships. And, to be honest, I think a lot of these difficult conversations would be made easier if we would define and clarify the terms we’re using. Today, I want to discuss the…
This morning was a little chaotic in my house. My daughter, age five, woke up in a really emotional mood. She was grouchy about everything, falling apart at the slightest inconvenience or thing going wrong. It was evident that there was something deeper going on—that the thing she was upset about was just the physical…
I typically write blogs about women’s issues pertaining to marriage, motherhood, and mental health. But today, I’d like to take a detour from my regular content and talk to you about my other passion: writing. I am an agented author. I have a book deal with HCI, the publishers of the Chicken Soup for the…
Part of my three-year healing journey has focused on learning how to avoid going into freeze, fight, or flight response every time I find myself in conflict with my spouse. I love him tremendously. Having already navigated a separation, and very nearly a divorce, I naturally fear anything that threatens the peace and happiness we…
Matt Rife is a comedian who I know primarily from TikTok. I’ll admit, the short clips he posts on the app are usually pretty good. He’s charming, generally funny. He’s known for his crowd work, and it’s hard to deny that he’s very good at it. He endeared himself quickly to many of us women…
I think the holiday season is a bittersweet one for many people. It is a time when we have to feel the consequences of whatever boundaries we’ve set with the people who matter to us. We’ve created distance with them, and for good reason. And we don’t regret that decision. Yet, going through the old…
The last several years of my therapy journey have centered on the importance of having hard conversations and communicating my needs. As a chronic people-pleaser, I have a long history of not telling people what I need, of prioritizing their needs and feelings over my own. A natural consequence of anything you’re working on in…
I guess I just wasn’t ready for how complicated some feelings around parenting would be. Like, obviously, we’re all aware of the immense highs and lows that come with raising children. But there is this unhinged side—this side that the “protective mama bear” trope comes from, that makes you feel like an absolutely wild animal….
The concept of dating your spouse is beautiful, in theory. Of course, most of us would happily continue the excitement and romance that characterized the beginning of our marriages if we had our way. But, as most of us have learned, life, parenthood, and its many demands swiftly get in the way. Parenting is a…
Content Warning: This article discusses cultivating a healthy sex life. Part of that discussion involves talking about what is not healthy. It will briefly discuss sexual coercion and how we overcame it. My husband and I have been to a lot of therapy, which has allowed us to navigate these difficult conversations with trust and…
