I see a lot of nonsense out there about self care. I could go on and on about my opinions on consumeristic, capitalistic, predatory self care culture that’s trendy today, but that’ll be a conversation for another time. Today, let’s keep it light. I want to talk to you about 5 myths of self care, and they they are totally wrong.
Myth #1: Self-care is selfish.
This is perhaps the most common myth about self care. People often think that if they take time for themselves, they are being selfish and not considering the needs of others. But this could not be further from the truth! Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do for others. When you are well-rested, nourished, and feeling good, you are able to show up in the world as your best self and be there for others in a much more meaningful way.
Myth #2: Self-care is expensive.
Another common myth about self-care is that it is expensive. Of course, those consumeristic self care schemes DO paint a picture that self care is all about how much you can spend on yourself. But although there are certainly some self-care activities that cost money, there are plenty of ways to take care of yourself that are completely free. Taking a nature walk, writing in a journal, or meditating are all great examples of free self-care activities that anyone can do.
Myth #3: Self-care is time-consuming.
Many people believe that self care takes a lot of time and effort, but this doesn’t have to be the case. Obviously, the more time you can spend taking care of yourself, the better. But who has the time? There are plenty of quick and easy ways to take care of yourself, such as taking a few deep breaths when you feel stressed or drinking a glass of water when you’re thirsty. Have I told you lately how good staying hydrated is for your physical, mental, and emotional health? You can also find ways to incorporate self care into your daily routine so that it doesn’t feel like an extra chore. For example, you could start your day with a few minutes of meditation or end your evening with a cup of herbal tea and a good book.
Myth #4: You have to do it all at once.
One of the biggest myths about self care is that you have to do it all at once. This couldn’t be further from the truth! In reality, self-care is something that you should focus on every day, in small doses. By making self-care a part of your daily routine, you’ll find it becomes much easier to stick with it long-term. And remember, even if you only have a few minutes to spare, any amount of self-care is better than none at all! As a mom, I find that this approach works much better than trying to set aside lengthy amounts of time for self care. When I snag little moments throughout the day whenever they come up, it feels more natural and less overwhelming.
Myth #5: Self-care is only for women.
This myth is based on the false idea that only women need to focus on taking care of themselves. In reality, everyone can benefit from incorporating some self care into their lives! Patriarchy tells men that it is “un-manly” to engage in self care … and that may be the reason why so many men are stressed out and aggressive. As I have worked to convince my husband to take better care of himself, he is becoming a better version of himself in every way. He is a better husband, a better dad, a better career man, and a better advocate for himself.
As you can see, there are lots of myths out there about self care. I hope you’ll shove those myths aside and start giving yourself the real, fulfilling self care that you deserve. You’ll be amazed by the changes you’ll see!